If you want to save your marriage, one of the best ways is actually to introduce some humour. If you're facing divorce - and especially if your spouse wants to end your marriage but you don't - then humour may seem like the last thing on your mind and this may seem like bad marriage advice. But think about this.
Too often, sharing a funny story or joke is one of the first things that goes from a marriage or relationship when problems start to arise. Yet it was one of those things that made your relationship fun and relaxed in the early days, wasn't it?
If your relationship or marriage is under stress, make a point of sharing a laugh with your partner. If they are cold or resistant towards you, you can still share something funny with them. Just make sure you do it in a casual way. Say to yourself, "I'm going to share this with them because I think it's funny. If they don't react positively then it's no big deal."
One of the keys to saving your marriage - especially when your spouse doesn't want to - is to bring some fun back into your relationship, without creating any additional pressure on your spouse. Humour is a great way to do it!
To get the ball rolling, here's a funny poem you can pass on to your spouse. Email it, text it or even speak it your spouse. They're bound to enjoy it!
Note: This poem is a bit risqué. If you can add a bit of adult spice to the fun you share with your spouse, all the better. Just don't overdo it, at least not to start with. Keep it casual!
The missus bought a Paperback,
down Shepton Mallet way,
I had a look inside her bag;
... T'was "Fifty Shades of Grey".
Well I just left her to it,
And at ten I went to bed.
An hour later she appeared;
The sight filled me with dread...
In her left she held a rope;
And in her right a whip!
She threw them down upon the floor,
And then began to strip.
Well fifty years or so ago;
I might have had a peek;
But Mabel hasn't weathered well;
She's eighty four next week!!
Watching Mabel bump and grind;
Could not have been much grimmer.
And things then went from bad to worse;
She toppled off her Zimmer!
She struggled back upon her feet;
A couple minutes later;
She put her teeth back in and said
I am a dominator !!
Now if you knew our Mabel,
You'd see just why I spluttered,
I'd spent two months in traction
For the last complaint I'd uttered.
She stood there nude and naked
Bent forward just a bit
I went to hold her, sensual like
and stood on her left t*t!
Mabel screamed, her teeth shot out;
My god what had I done!?
She moaned and groaned then shouted out:
"Step on the other one"!!
Well readers, I can't tell no more;
About what occurred that day.
Suffice to say my jet black hair,
Turned fifty shades of grey.
By John Summers
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