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Is It Ever Too Late to Save My Marriage?
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Is It Ever Too Late to Save My Marriage?

When is it "too late" to save a marriage?

I am often contacted by people whose spouse has asked them for a separation or divorce, and are anxious to know if it is still possible to save their marriage.

There is never an easy answer to this, as it depends a lot on the individual situation.

However, there are some things to bear in mind that can help you to save your marriage, no matter how late in the game it appears to be.

Firstly, it is never too late to do anything - IF you are determined enough to succeed.

This applies especially to getting back together with your spouse and rebuilding your marriage!

Bear in mind that there are instances where  a couple has reunited months, even years, after a divorce.

This has happened even when one or both has become involved with someone else.

I often say that there are only two reasons why you can't succeed in saving your marriage:

Either you decide you don't want to, or you give up trying.

Actually, both of these reasons amount to the same thing: you deciding to stop trying get your spouse back.

Of course, the longer the time that elapses the less likely you are to be successful.

The emotional connection between the two of you becomes harder to re-establish.

But make no mistake about it, it can be done, as others before you have proved.

The true reason why your spouse wants to end your marriage - and why it's not too late to save it

The second thing that is important to realise is that your spouse wants to end your marriage for emotional reasons, not logical ones.

That is why there is no point in trying to appeal to their sense of logic when trying to get them to come back to you.

You can explain to them all the reasons why they should, but it will fall on deaf ears.

They are leaving you simply because being with you does not make them feel good!

They can see that being somewhere else - or with someone else - is going to make them feel better than being with you.

So if you want to save your marriage you have to get them feeling better emotionally about YOU than about someplace/someone else.

That is why you need to be careful in your dealings with them.

Always ask yourself:

"Is what I'm intending to do or say right now going to make them feel better about me or not?"

This takes a great deal of mental strength, especially if they are trying to antagonise you or if they don't respond positively to you.

How long it really takes to save a marriage...

Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, remember that it's not the amount of time that has elapsed that is important, it is whether or not you are doing the right things to save your marriage.

There are proven techniques and strategies that are very effective in saving marriages.

These can work in even apparently hopeless cases.

Learn what these are - and start applying them to your situation - and you might be amazed how quickly you can turn your situation around!

It is a great feeling to have your husband or wife change their mind about leaving your marriage and deciding they want to stay with (or come back to) you after all.

Very often, the marriage will be stronger as a result, with better communication, greater intimacy and a new sense of appreciation and gratitude for each other.

You too can have that if you want it.

Just don't give up, keep going until you find the things to do that actually work - and start doing them.

Your happiness - and your marriage - are worth the effort.

It's not too late to save your marriage - if you start now

If you want to find the things that actually do work in saving a marriage - and a proven strategy to start doing them - you can learn them in my Save Your Marriage program at

This powerful program has been used by individuals worldwide to heal and restore their marriage, often when it was on the edge of divorce.

It will show you everything you need to do to save your marriage and restore the love between you and your spouse.

Start saving your marriage right away.

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Nathan K., California

When I joined this program I was desperate, the women I loved, my best friend of over 25 years and mother of my 3 children had sparked a flame with an old boyfriend and came home from a trip wanting a divorce. My world crashed and I saw everything I loved walking out the door with her. Joining this program was a hope and a prayer and to be honest I didn't think it would work but I felt I had to try something. Thank goodness I did! It not only changed her decision, but it changed me. I am confident, stronger than ever and have benefitted from realizing what was missing in my life, my marriage and our kids lives. Change was and is hard, and not every idea came with a positive outcome, but the totality of the ideas did give me the outcome I wanted and deserved. I wasn't a believer but I certainly am now.