Most of us make life way too complicated - when it’s actually designed to be simple.
This is especially true when we’re faced with a problem or crisis in our life.
If you’re trying to save your marriage, make more money, resolve a relationship or health problem (or anything else) you’re probably doing the following:
#1 Feeling overwhelmed
Solving your problem seems such an enormous and difficult task. You don’t know where to start.
#2 Feeling angry or upset
You’re asking yourself: “Why is this happening to me? This isn’t fair.”
#3 Trying to work out what to do
All sorts of ideas are coming into your mind about what to do. You’re trying to come up with a solution by trying to figure out how all of the “pieces of the puzzle” are going to fit together.
#4 Reacting to the situation
Whatever (or whoever) is causing the problem - whenever anything happens, you react. And whatever you do only makes things worse. Your spouse might say something to you - and you say something back which makes you or them even more upset.
Everything you do seems to be wrong - and that of course only makes you feel more overwhelmed, upset and confused.
The good news is that there is actually a much easier way to solve any problem you are facing.
One that is much more effective. And it works because it’s the way you are actually biologically designed to deal with problems.
And the “easier way” is simply this:
Take the very next step.
Do the next thing that comes into your mind that feels right. Right away.
Just quietly and calmly say to yourself:
“What is the next thing I should do about this?”
And do it.
It might be to:
Walk away from an argument
Pick up the phone and make that call or write that email
Enrol in that course or program
Don’t think too hard about it. Don’t question it. Don’t worry if you think it is a “mistake”.
Just do it.
You can’t handle trying to figure out the next 10 or 20 steps.
But you can figure out the next step. Your brain is designed to work this way.
Keep doing this and you will solve your problem.